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    She was working quietly in her
    room putting her princess dress
    on, complete with the shoes
    and tiara. She knew daddy
    would be home soon. She was
    standing there in her innocent
    beauty, when he walked
    through the door. As soon as
    she saw him, she said, “Look at
    me daddy!”
    Any man that has a daughter
    has seen something like this. If
    our minds and priorities are in
    the right place, the situation
    melts our hearts. If not, we will
    blow it off with a quick “you
    look great princess.”
    It continues to happen as she
    gets older. When she learns to
    ride her bike, learns to swim,
    learns a new dance, she says,
    “Look at me daddy!”.
    During her teenage years, she
    continues to say the same
    thing, but she does it
    nonverbally. When she puts the
    dress on for the school dance,
    when she puts on too much
    makeup, when she wears
    something too revealing or too
    attention seeking she’s saying
    the same thing. But, this time
    she’s saying it to people other
    than daddy too.
    When she finds that special
    someone to take daddy’s place,
    one of the first things she does
    is stand at the end of the aisle
    and say, “Look at me husband.”
    THE TWO QUESTIONS
    Those statements she made
    were never statements. They
    were always questions. They
    were always the same two
    questions every woman asks
    from the time she’s a small girl
    until the day she dies. As a
    daughter, she was asking them.
    As your girlfriend, she was
    asking them. And, as your wife
    she’s asking them.

    1. Do you see me?
    2. Do you delight in me?

    Those two questions are rooted
    deep into your wife’s identity. If
    you see her and if you delight in
    her, she feels important, needed,
    wanted. Getting these questions
    answered by her husband are
    not only of huge importance to
    her, but to your marriage.
    As a husband, there is no better
    way to tell your wife that you
    love her than to answer these
    questions for her, to do it often,
    and to answer with a
    resounding yes.
    Of course, you’re never going to
    hear her literally ask the
    questions. She wants you to
    notice her. She doesn’t want to
    have to tell you to notice her.
    But just because you don’t hear
    her literally asking the
    questions doesn’t mean she’s
    not asking them.
    She’s asking them when she
    puts on something nice for a
    date night with you. She’s
    asking them when she spends
    time doing things you like. She
    asks them when she cooks your
    favorite meal. She asks them
    when she takes care of the
    house, laundry, bills, kids, etc…
    Do you realize that just about
    everything she does, she does
    for you? And, in everything she
    does, she just wants you to
    answer those questions.

    THE ANSWERS
    It’s as simple as saying things
    like:
    “I love it when you
    spend time watching
    football with me.”
    “I really appreciate it
    when you make this
    meal for me.”
    “You look beautiful in
    that dress.” or
    “When you’re by my
    side, I feel like a
    million bucks.”
    “It feels great when
    you rub my head.”
    “I love to hear you
    sing.”
    “You’re such a good
    mother to our
    children.”
    If you’ve heard of The Five Love
    Languages and you know that if
    your wife’s love language
    is Words of Affirmation,
    answering these questions
    verbally is even more critical.
    But, you should answer the
    questions even if your wife has
    another love language too.

    Gifts – Buy her something and
    tell her it’s because you’re
    thankful she’s your wife.

    Acts of Service – Do something
    nice for her and tell her you
    know how much she does for
    you so you wanted to show a
    little bit of your appreciation.

    Physical Touch – Give her a
    massage and tell her you’re
    doing it because you appreciate
    everything she does for you.

    Quality Time – Schedule some
    time together and tell her it’s
    because you want her to know
    that you’re thankful for her.
    A little bit of effort can go a
    long way toward letting your
    wife know you love her. Do it.
    Say it. Show it. Let her know
    she’s special. Let her know
    she’s the one.
    Let her know you see her. Let
    her know you delight in her.

    (Excerpts from Husband Revolution)

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